Pregnant but in a dilemma. Please help.?
Ok. I found out im pregnant, not to long ago.(Which Im not upset about, I feel its a blessing, women would give anything to bring life into the world).
but the problem is.
I live in Las Vegas, NV…for college…My Whole family stays in Missouri. I still plan on going to college(under grad student), this will be a little different now, because I have to get an apartment verses living on campus. I cant stop going to school, b/c 1) I have a scholarship, 2) I want to be a doctor..Anesthesiologist to be exact, and moving back home will force me to start school in January. or Late August if I make the deadline…but again, I have a scholarship to go here. I would have to take out loans to pay for school.
I KNOW I need to tell my mom, and mother-in-law that im pregnant…I KNOW that I need help b.c I have no clue what to do as far as a pregnancy..(this being my first).
If I tell them, I KNOW that they will make me stay in Missouri, and not want me to return to Vegas,which I understand, b.c all my family is Missouri…
So you do think it is best that I just want until I get my own place, then tell them..so they know that im handling this very mature or responsibility..or do I tell them now?
Thanks
and Baby Dust To all TTC!!!
xoxo
I would really like their help…but Im just afraid they may make me stay in Missouri.
Im not 18…Ill be 20…when I said "make" Im saying..YOU KNOW HOW MOTHERS CAN BE…
ill get hell from them about moving.and trying to do things on my own…and this is baby #1 for me…so I know they both will insist that I move back..
thanks "Prue1989-Baby#1 due 1 Nov 09" you are the only one who truly understood.
7 Responses
ttc after mc 13
01 Mar 2010
BeautyBlitz
01 Mar 2010
If you are old enough to go to college and get pregnant than you are old enough that your mommy can’t "make" you do anything. She can suggest and insist all she wants but you are an adult now, you are going to be a mother, she can’t "make" you do anything.
toastedalmondd
01 Mar 2010
Tell them and go to Vegas for school. I assume you are 18, so they CAN’T make you do anything you don’t want to do. It is your choice. So follow your heart and work toward your goals.
shancaj33 Due Oc
01 Mar 2010
well your a grown adult and they cant make you stay. Just do what you feel comfortable doing. Im sure they will be excited to know you are pregnant
Prue1989-Baby#1
01 Mar 2010
You said it, get a place, get yourself sorted and then tell them. I’m sure they will understand when you explain it to them and I’m hoping that once they see you can handle things they will not try make you move back home. I know how stubborn some mothers can be and how freaked out they can get when something this huge happens. As they insist just explain that you will be fine, if you ever need help they’re just a phone call away…
A good education and good job will be great to help you provide for your child, especially doing what you want to do. It will be difficult doing school and raising a child, but you sound determined and mature enough to accomplish it.
Perhaps ask if your mother or mother-in-law can move in with you for a month or two when the baby is due? This way they can help you adjust and also help with anything you’re unsure of when the baby is being born and a newborn?
That’s what I’m doing anyway 
Congratulations
KoJo
01 Mar 2010
I know what you are going through. My husband is in the Army so we are in Texas and our whole families are in Utah and we just found out we are pregnant. You have to just sit your family down and tell them you are pregnant but you are still going to have to go to school to be a good role model for the baby. If you don’t go to college the chances your baby wont go are slim as well. Do this for your baby and not your family. Tell you family that you want them to be a part of the baby’s life so they are more then welcome to call/visit (if you want them to) any time so they can see the baby. You can do this. You are a woman you a strong. Good Luck
Dani
01 Mar 2010
Let them know you’re pregnant and let nature take it’s course. Be grateful for the family you have, and allow them to help you, but at the same time, make them aware that you are an adult, and that you are willing to do whatever it takes to remain independent. I doubt with you being 20, they can force you to move back home. I was forced back home when I had my son due to my handicap and the fact I had my son by c-section, but had I not been handicapped, I’m sure things would have been different. Good luck and congrats.
I wouldn’t tell them until you are a little farther along in your pregnancy. I recommend just getting your ducks in a row and then tell them. I think that you are on the right path of wanting to get an apartment and what not. With you being so far away from family, I would tell them when you get ready to tell them. You need to be able to show them that you can handle the situation by yourself. Relax and don’t worry about what anyone else thinks! You are doing such a good thing by staying in school and trying to figure things out to be able to be pregnant and go to school. Congrats on your pregnancy and you are doing the best you can! I am proud of you!!!