need advice serious replies please?
i am in need of advice because i have to make a very important decision based on relocation to another city.
i currently live in las vegas and my parents want to move to another city because my father has been very sick.and it has been hard on my mother and i to make the bills and it is draining us in everyway.i am not sure if i want to move where my parents want to move to they want to move to carson city nv where family is closer and if i stay i will have no family.my fathjers health is not getting any better and my mother feels moving will be better for us.any advice please?
22 Responses
steelcity91
06 Feb 2010
yorgie545
06 Feb 2010
move…but rent….so some day you can move back
nick e
06 Feb 2010
do whats best for your family
Bingalee
06 Feb 2010
You must go with your parents of course. Your father would want all his family around him at this time.
simply_college
06 Feb 2010
I would stay with my father.
I didn’t udnerstand from your details if your father is staying in Las Vegas or moving with your mother but once someone is gone, they are gone. Soak up as much time as you can with him.
Marvin B
06 Feb 2010
You should spend time with your Father.
Cliff
06 Feb 2010
I would go. Better support for your mother and other family members while they care for your ill father
annelise u
06 Feb 2010
if you have a lot of close friends in las vegas, and you want to stay friends with them and you are making enough to support yourself, then stay. you can always visit your family.
if you’re gonna miss your family too much, and rely on them a lot, then go
krabbycash
06 Feb 2010
Alot of people going throught the same stuff your not alone, but your going to have to break away.
Hard to say and do, but stay with a friend. Tell your parents, but stay with all that and you wont have much of a future to go off of.
zebin d
06 Feb 2010
I think it would be nice if you move with your family. Though I am not saying it is going to be easy. 
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controlledenviro
06 Feb 2010
does your father have health insurance? and in relation to moving, rent somewhere.
ChurchGirl
06 Feb 2010
As hard as it might seem, I would advise you to relocate with your family; I would even go so far as to move in with them, at least temporarily, while your father’s needs are being tallied.
It can be difficult to live in close quarters with your parents, but your father and mother BOTH will need you, and if (God forbid) your father were to pass away, you will be so grateful for the time you gave him…
GOOD LUCK!
Ali
06 Feb 2010
this seriously sucks,
but family first, you know?
think about where you’ll be if you don’t follow.
can you support yourself?
God gives us trials to better our lives in the end.
you never know what you’ll find in carson city!
it may be better than expected.
Crow T. Robot
06 Feb 2010
Well, you need to ask yourself which is more important – family obligations or the desire to stay in Vegas. Keep in mind that your mother could certainly benefit from whatever help you can offer – considering you are already so familiar with their situation.
harbour_cat
06 Feb 2010
I suggest you stay where you are, since you already have hard time paying for bills.etc, moving house/place will definitely cost money. And another problem is that, they may chase after you for the previous bills.etc.
alka .
06 Feb 2010
I suggest you should move with your parents.they do deserve a couple of years in your life.
hollistersocal24
06 Feb 2010
well, this is a tough decision, but it depends what you are comfortable with.
If you are comfortable in Las Vegas and have friends and stuff there— stay in Nevada for your own benifit and life. One day, you are going to have to moe out of your parents house and this is a good oppurtunity to.
If you love our family way too much–leave with your family and help support you father’s health. When a family member is sick, it is important for families to stay together.
hope it hepls!
–good luck—
Consenting adult
06 Feb 2010
Grant your dad his wish,it might be the last one(God forbid)Your mom knows best.I think you are a teen and feel the need to rebel(?)against your mom.Do it so you wont have anything to regret later on.
wahoo
06 Feb 2010
If your father is sick and has to move, it is your obligation to move with the family. You do not want to cause extra stress on your father by staying back. Once you turn of age and you still want to return to your home town, you can do so. Your mother and father really need you with them right now.
Amanda A
06 Feb 2010
you don’t say how old you are or what your situation is in vegas, ie what you would be leaving behind.
i’m going to make a few assumptions: you are a young adult who works outside the home with a network of friends and acquaintances.
if those assumptions are correct, i’d say that you should stay in vegas. if your parents are moving to carson city to be closer to family, they are doing it to expand their network of support for your father. if that’s the case, then they will have more support there even without you than they currently do with you.
if things take a turn for the worse with your father, you are a relatively short trip away, and can be at his side in a day if you need to.
there comes a point where both you have to live your own life. rent an apartment in vegas, get a roommate if you have to, and do your best to be supportive of your parents in their move and remain present in their lives while really establishing your own, separate life.
however, if you are not an adult, you must remain with your family if they decide to move.
Terry
06 Feb 2010
I say do what you want. I say your parents would demand you move with them if they felt it necessary. I do suggest you not move or be to far away as your parent’s health is in danger.
The only reasons I could give to think otherwise; are employment,children or husband(I assume you are female).
Firebird
06 Feb 2010
That’s a tough one. All I can tell you is to follow your heart and do what is right for you .You have to live for yourself.
i experienced this problem before in regards to my grandma, you definitely need to move if you have jobs lined up, because nothing is more important than family. However you need to make sure that you will be able to maintain financial stability while there in order to keep yourself going so if you don’t have a job lined up make sure you have someone there who can help you until you get back on your feet.
hope all turns out well